My photo assignment was to shoot “princess for a day” my first immediate thought was to shoot the girls playing dress up. My next idea was to let the girls go all out on Daddy and make him into a princess for a day. Then due to procrastination and not getting any of these shots set up or taken, I had to think of a different route, what about Mommy as a princess. Lord help me, I am not a princess, lets face it I am not even a girly girl, I like getting dirty and playing softball and watching football! I forced myself to find something that makes me turn into a princess, feel un-mom like, and I thought of my “glitter shoes” (as the girls call them). This process made me realize I need to wear these shoes more often, I need some time off, I need to call in reinforcements, I need some backup…..OKAY I need H-E-L-P!
I don’t know about other Mom’s, but for me, I have a really hard time asking for help. I get tired, run down, exhausted and just plain worn out being a Mom. I don’t ask for help when I need a day off, because in my head Mom’s don’t get days off. Mom’s, especially stay-at-home Mom’s, don’t get days off, our jobs are 24-7 right? Well a super genius friend of mine(I will not mention that her name starts with a M and ends in a shell) yelled at me about asking for help. She helped me put motherhood into perspective, it’s a job and even jobs have days off. It’s ok to say I need a day off, it’s ok to want to get out of the house and grab a coffee ALONE, it’s ok to need a “me” day. To ask for help is like a weakness for me, it is hard to say that I need time to re-boost. I think that the fact that my Mom did it and didn’t have help makes me think that I have to do it alone too. I have to get it through me head that it’s ok to take a time out, I am not like my Mom, I am me and to make myself happy and keep my sanity and my kids happy too, sometimes I just have to suck it up and ask for a break. My girls are my everything (the hubs too) and to unplug once in a while is needed for them as much as it is for me.